YOUR THOUGHTS
06 February 2012: hoochie mama hoochie mama
observations for today
i can not stop perving. i've been on the verge of neck whiplash from turning my head to the next hoochie i see. i've had a mental checklist of what i want physically from a man
(hey, it can't hurt to dream on). i do have my reality check and go beyond the looks, and i do have a deeper checklist of what i want and need from someone. some say it's bad to do it this way, but at the same time, some think it's good cos it eliminates all the negative things that i don't want form another person and therefore a fast track to finding the right one because of the mental checklist. ( i think i've seen something like this in oprah).
and some even say, just let it be. just let your heart do the thinking.
to ponder onwhat is love?
i kept on asking myself , and even friends... how do you know it's love?
i've only fallen inlove once,oh don't get me wrong, i've gone out with other people, i just haven't given my full self as in love to the others.
i gave in once. it made me happy, but i knew it was love because it hurt in the end.
anyone who says love means never having to say you are sorry or not being hurt; hasn't experienced what true love is.
love for me was getting sick in the stomach when the object of affection was around, love was being comfortable, love was crying, love was hurting, love was trying to let go, love was being able to understand each other without even uttering a single word.
love was looking into their eyes and knowing that even if they didn't love you back.... that i was real, that i was alive... cos i loved.
Wow!!!
It's the first time that I'm making comments on a website that other people can read and I have to say that it feels pretty good that it is happening on the website that belongs to one of my dearest friends.
All I know is that love will come to you like it or not. So people do not try yo resist.
Now in the case that it doesn't work out, YES there will be pain and tears and everything that goes together with a breakup but people do not fret.
If you haven't realized it yet this is part of life. So my dear friends and friends to be I leave you with a saying: Wahtever doesn't kill you will only make you stronger.
But then again what does a 27 year old from the other side of the world know. JUST GO WITH THE FLOW.
- posted by Nicholas Pelekis [www]
love is a very strong word. it has a lot of meanings.Loveis a word that can do alot to the heart it can break it or make it happy.
- posted by Tooch
does true love have to be romantic?
- posted by barbara
" i think i've seen something like this in oprah"
Who else have you been poking around inside? And how did you get so close to her. I was expecting kidneys, liver, that sort of stuff...
- posted by Andrew [www] [email]
I reckin dat yuve got to rmember dat it all comes down to getting real, hand getting back to your roots.
Dats why its good to hang on to dem old phone numbers - hand give one of yure old roots a ring for a dig.
Hits also way important to respect where we come from, and dats why I worship the minge.
- posted by sunhill boy
Very nice work Bar-bar-a. I like the oblong of black and white faces across
the top of the page but your face should be in colour, or bright green, to
let everyone know who's the boss of the show. Nice typefaces, nice layout,
very nice. And it's people oriented which is nice. And you've darkened up
the type which is nice. Journey Journal name is very good. Good.
- posted by anonymous
today, i chose to be part of the journey! Probably encouraged by the
photos...when will i ever see snow?
what is love?
now i can define it differently. it seems that definitions change, or
probably the meaning changes whenever one goes through another stage in
life.
i'm nearing the stage of motherhood...a 2 to 3 more weeks in waiting!
my love is becoming more and more unconditional...not seeing aht you can
get from the person but what you can give.
being blessed with an awesome husband, i admit i've been so spoiled these
days. you might say it's usual because of the pregnancy, well, all i can say
is that i've never been loved like this before. this is the same love
i would like to share my child as soon as he comes out. there will definitely be more
sacrifices - as we all hear - the late nights and tons of chores, but then wiouldn't it be
all worth it.
there may be pain in love, but true love never ends in pain.
that's what i always believe in.
- posted by anonymous
love is serving, sharing and caring for a passing moment it time.
- posted by terry
I am the king of perving... give me a spunk any day and I will never stop looking. Barbara, you keep it up... we are a dying breed...:)
love is.... pretty much unfathomable. I know I have it, and not just for my man but for a whole lot of people, including you...
- posted by legend [email]
What's love got to do with it?
- posted by Sarz [www]
to LEGEND... you rock my world! i so terribly miss you and remember them days of perving with you!
i just hope one day, this perving nature of mine leads me to...true love hehe :)
- posted by barbara
What is love ?
I've only been in love twice, although I have dated many girls / women ...... personally, I find that I don't fall in love easily ...... maybe I'm too fussy, or just not prepared to "work at it" to create love ...... I feel that true love comes naturally.
In fact, I know from recent personal experience that it actually takes a lot of effort and neglect to "quash" true love ..... it's not something that has to be worked at to create ...... it's just there.
True love is where you put somebody else's thoughts and feelings above your own, and you think about them all the time.
Also, when you're truly in love, it's the best and most fulfilling sex you could ever have, because it really means something.
Nothing matches true love ...... I hope it's not too long before I can experience it again ...... under circumstances where it can be fully realised ......
- posted by Chris [email]
how do we know if we have choose the right one. The right one to spend the rest of life. The one to have our children with. We dont. we choose to believe we do.
- posted by tooch
I love falling inlove! Its the most satisfying feeling, it brings out the best out of me.
- posted by Woodrow Velasco [www] [email]
It is that feeling you get... when you know that he/she is the one. That it just feels so right, that you cán't do without that person it your life. I know it hurts, Barbara especially when it is love... but remember, love is blind and we love with our hearts.. we like and respect with our minds, and so we often don't see a person's true colours until it is too late. Just keep believing in yourself... you are beautiful, caring, intelligent, funky and one of the people I most admire and most love.....
- posted by legend [email]
Hi Barbara! I know its been hard for you for the last few months. I understand what your going through, as your brother it hurts me to see you like this, it really breaks my heart. I remember a SMART LOVING FUNKY WOMAN told me once that "when you close the door a new window of opportunity opens up" I thought it was well said, it actually came from you. I live by your words, you are one of my good luck Angels, so no matter what happens Ill try my hardest to be there for you. LOve Nino
- posted by Woodrow Velasco [www] [email]
When I'm in love I'm on a natural high. I cherish every single precious moment with that special someone. The things we talk about, the warmth of her body against mine, the look on her eyes, the taste of her lips, and the feel of her hair in between my finger tips. To me love is appreciation and contentment. Appreciating them for who they are, and being content from the realisation of how much you already have.
- posted by Woodrow Velasco [www] [email]
Hello cousin dear,
I really adore the design & layout of your website. It's graphically hip...what can I say? You are one truly talented designer.
Love is so vast to describe...it could mean a lot of things to each and everyone of us...but all I know is that when I feel alone and hurt, I could always trust that God loves me no matter what. Sounds too religious I know, but it's what keeps me going.
- posted by Yvonne Velasco-Ortega [email]
To Yvonne... Our cousin. Ive never met you in my whole entire life but yet you seem so close to us. I might be wrong but, I know you have a special connection with Barbara my Sister. I also have a good bond with her, maybe thats why It feels like your so familiar. This will be the first time Ive written a message to you, I dont even know how you sound like. But Ive seen photos of you. I saw your comment today 24/9/02, and somehow I just felt like responding to you. I know it sounds weird but your my Cousin, and I believe that I have a responsibility to connect with you not only because your blood but most importantly Ive never met anyone from my fathers side... Ill try and send you an email soon, If you dont mind. To be honest ever since Barbara and Dominique came back from America Ive had this urge to just see my family on the other side of the world.
- posted by Woodrow Velasco Jr [www] [email]
To my sister, My ever vigilent sister. My dearest sister who makes me read this then send my comment in. Not that you had to twist my arm... much. You are not only a great designer but truly a great person. You can see things from a perspective which is unparallel from that which is normal. You are my best friend and that says a lot since i hate the term 'best friend' but that's what you've been... even though sometimes it might not have seemed like it, your always in my heart... Now away from the mushy crap... what am i getting for Christmas? (wink wink nudge nudge)....(enter evil laugh right about...now).
- posted by April [email]
I am so in love with someone who is so in love with me,but can't because she's married with kids, and I don't know how long its going to take before she can build the courage to make the break in fear of her resolve with her ex and kids...When is enough heart ache?
- posted by Paul Fraser [email]