YOUR THOUGHTS
06 February 2012: "give me some attitude!!!"
observations for today
i have a little problem with people who struggle with confidence.
i mean, i have my moments of self criticism and self doubt. i dwell on it for a minute, and think of the great things i have accomplished as well, then that makes me feel better and help me exude a bit more confidence.
sometimes that's all it takes. CONFIDENCE in yourself, otherwise no one will.
i also have a little bit of difficulty when people i try to encourage doesnt believe in what i'm saying or have a little bit of doubt in what i know, they would wait to hear it from someone else first before validating or acknowledging the thoughts i've shared is for real... really hate that!
a friend once said to me... she scares me sometimes, she's even has an attitude when she walks..."
i thought that was funny. that's when i realised how people see me. not that it really matters as a personal satisfaction on what people think of me, but it does help to gain that self confidence, to gain respect in the business world, to assess what sort of person i really am.
and in parting thoughts... sometime we got to think like one of those ricki lake audience like:
GIRL, YOU BETTER TALK TO THE HAND.. COS THE FACE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND! with the full on body and hand gestures...
or one from my sister:
BRING IT ON! I GOT A CAN OF WOOP ASS RIGHT HERE WITH YOUR NAME ON IT!
to ponder onhow do you project yourself?
how do people see you?
do people see the "real" you?
people dont see the REAL me, sometimes its too late when they see me. Is it my fault or theirs? I know who you're talking about Barbara! Just give me a chance to peel off my layers. I know Im capable. Put yourself in my shoes, Im basically diving into a deep pool not knowing what the temperature is or the depth, but one day Ill float with ease and a smile on my face! Im only 21 and all of a sudden Im having meetings with corporate executives making arrangements about their pesonal promos, design work and budget, at the same time building a business... to me thats a shock. I do know how much I can achieve with you and Peter beside me. Give me time to learn and make mistakes. sometimes I agree with you about my confidence... thanks for having faith in me. Its about time I should have faith in myself. If Ive achieved this much in a year at this age, imagine how much I can achieve in the future. just give me time.
- posted by woodrow velasco jr [www] [email]
Sometimes we are just scared shitless.... people will think about us, no matter what we do. and no matter what anyone says, it does matter to most of us. but we have to rise above that. ultimately, you can't please everyone so you might as well please yourself. I am slowly learning that and I think I am getting there. I used to do everything and anything for anyone, but didn't help myself. But if you look after yourself then you believe in yourself...and that is the first step to getting that ATTITUDE. You've come a long way Barbara...I am so proud of you... now all you need is to realise how beautiful you are and that out there, is that special someone waiting to take your heart. and he is there, believe me... like you believe in yourself....
- posted by legend [email]
The subject of self-confidence has been dealt with over the centuries of time and still it is not RESOLVED. Each new born being has to develope their own personal self-confidence. This is why with the mega words hat have been written by EXPERTS down through the ages has no effect on the the newcomers to this world. No one person can live up to the expecvtations of another. There is no one capable of instilling self- confidence in any other person. No person can give Barbara or Woody or anyone else SELF -CONFIDENCE. I believe it can only be attain through a partnership between the individual and his or her maker. I therefore recommend not to be INFLUENCED by any other individual. We instinctively know this and this is the reason people don't take advice on the subject. I have written no less than 85,000 words on this subject and still it has no effect on others close to me whom I strongly wish to get this message. Such is life. Do not be hard on your SELF. Be kind to your SELF instead. Just love your SELF as you are.
- posted by mr b
hehe i miss you legend! hope to see you on our biggest rave ever?
- posted by bv
i'm there baby, i'm there.... :)
- posted by legend [email]
quote from pretty woman goes something like "have you ever noticed how the negative things are easier to believe?"
so true sometimes.
- posted by anonymous
ACT AS IF!...
- posted by woodrow velasco [www] [email]